When it comes time for you to pass on from this world, how do you want to go out? Would you prefer to pass away peacefully in your bed, surrounded by your loved ones? Or would you rather go out with a bang, doing something completely wild and awesome in your last moments?
Even past that, what exactly do you want done with your body? Do you want a traditional burial in a cemetery, complete with a nice headstone and a well-maintained plot? Would you rather be cremated and your ashes kept in an urn, or possibly even scattered somewhere important to you (even though you’re technically not allowed to do that in most places)? Or do you want your funeral to be a crazy event, the likes of which nobody’s ever seen?
Whatever your answers to these questions are, we’re pretty willing to bet that nobody envisioned their remains being used as turkey stuffing to be served at Christmas dinner. However, that’s exactly what a 41-year-old woman is planning on doing with her mother’s ashes, and the explanation is pretty divisive, to say the least…
Debra Parsons, a resident of Kent, England, recently announced her plan to use the ashes of her mother Doreen, who passed away in May 2017, as a seasoning for her Christmas dinner. They will be mixed in with the turkey stuffing, as well as added to her dessert.
In a statement to the Mirror, Parsons explains:
“It is the only thing that will get me through my first Christmas without mum. People might think I’m mad or that it’s not a very respectful thing to do but I just can’t stop myself. I see it as a positive thing – allowing her to be close to me and also involving her in the family day. I feel like she can live on by being inside of me because if she is part of me she can breathe through my body. My breath is her breath. It will be my first Christmas without her and I want her to be involved and this is the only way that feels right to me.”
Doreen passed away very suddenly after suffering from a chest obstruction, and it’s been one of several family tragedies for Debra, who had previously suffered a miscarriage several years back. She was devastated, and thought of her unorthodox plan after being delivered her share of her mother’s ashes.
“I don’t know what made me do it the first time – it was just an urge. I can’t describe it,” she said. “I opened the box and licked my fingers and just dipped them into the powder. Before I knew what I was doing they were in my mouth and the chalky, salty taste was comforting. I felt confused by what I had done to begin with but the feeling of comfort and closeness it brought was the first bit of solace I’d had since her death.”
Debra’s fiancé and two children apparently support her idea to add her mother’s ashes to Christmas dinner, and are telling her to do whatever she needs to make it through her grief.
What do you think about this woman’s strange tribute to her late mother?